CBS has a new “comedy” about a heart patient who falls in love with his cardiac nurse. I have not been able to watch this because of what happened to my husband. His cardiac nurse was not the type a man would fall in love with because of her compassion and caring. Rather his nurse is the type you would want to have sent to jail because she is a sexual predator.
I have now seen the first few minutes of the show and it is nothing like what happens in real life. First off, Bob arrives with the paramedics and his family is all there. Is the ambulance that slow? My husband arrived alone as I wasn’t allowed to accompany him because of their sinister plans. Bob also arrived with his shirt on and no EKG leads and he clearly was not drugged. In real life, they like their patients drugged with opiates or benzos to make them compliant or submissive.
Next Bob woke up in a room asking “what happened?” Notice again Bob was not drugged, was elevated, and saying he had to pee. Had time passed since the PCI? After the PCI, usually you are made to lie flat for 6 to 8 hours. They make you use a bedpan as you have to urinate often because of the contrast medium they use leaves per your urine. They also shoot hydration into your IVs too. So if time had passed, it would be doubtful that Bob needed to pee that urgently. If you noticed, Bob’s gown was fully closed in the back and appropriately covering his lower half For my husband, his gown was never tied until he was gotten up to walk around noon of the next day. He, for around 10 hours, was in bed with the gown untied and bunched up around his abdomen with Feather Wench and later just pulled past his genital area. Bob’s nurse did not check his puncture wounds before getting him up. Also, did Bob not know she had already performed bedpan on him? Did she like Feather Wench entertain the hospital staff because she thought it was amusing and she had power to torture a defenseless man? Also, when escorting the patient to the toilet they do not stop at the door, they continue inside with the patient. There is no privacy charade intended
For people watching this show, it gives them a false sense of what will occur. They will be shocked at what really happens. Does that mean all nurses will molest or abuse their patients? No, it does not but how do you know which ones will? You don’t so like us you should act like all are potential molesters or abusers. Also, when examining femoral puncture wounds, most nurses do not think of their patients as humans with feelings and will unnecessarily expose the genital area. Most of insensitive to a patient’s personal dignity. This would categorize them as committing a sexually inappropriate act but not to the extent which was done on my husband as he was left exposed for hours and was the center of entertainment. However, for anyone who has suffered either, the results should not be marginalized. It is devastating. So be aware, this was only a tv show and it does not truly represent what happens. Also, this show is wrong in encouraging a patient to seek a romantic relationship with his care provider and vice versa. In a care situation, no one should be looking for a date. It sets the stage for sexual harassment and worse.
To me, this show, romanticizes something that should not be happening. There should not be a relationship pursued outside of medical care as neither the patient nor the medical care provider should be shopping for a relationship. This type of behavior disproves that medical providers don’t see patients in the state of nudity and are able to suppress sexual behavior. Patient/medical provider relationships should be taboo to protect both parties but especially the patient who may be vulnerable and unable to protect themselves.
This type of relationship allows medical providers to know details about their potential love interest that should only be disclosed by the person when they feel like sharing. It also enables the medical provider to shop for physical attributes before a person is willing to share. Just imagine if a single doctor liked big breasts that didn’t sag so upon his physical examination he concluded a patient had had breast implants so he decided to ask her out. This would mean his physical exam of this patient was very sexual in nature. Is that something we want to encourage even more of than the already known existence of the Larry Nassers in the world of medicine?
I don’t know what procedure Bob had done but most cardiac procedures involve the exposure (even though not necessary) of the patient’s genitals. For women, it also means the breasts are certainly exposed due to EKGs and placement of defib/ground pads. The medical community like to have the patient drugged as the patient will not resist or protest their unnecessary exposure. Medical providers may leave a female’s breast exposed so anyone can see them including ER visitors. They may not even cover her when transferring her to other areas of the hospital. She is drugged and is not able to defend herself. My husband was drugged against his will so they could expose him and perform their chosen method of treatment that he had not consented to beforehand. They have their methods to cancel out patient choice and wishes. Remember when he told them about his adverse reactions to painkillers and versed, they acted as though they were taking notes. When he told them he would go to the transfer hospital so they could discuss with both he and I about his treatment choices, they said nothing to the contrary all the while as the medical records show they had already determined that he would have a PCI whether he wanted it or not. They just bided their time until they were able to isolate him from me on an air ambulance and gave the order to render him to be defenseless against what they wanted done by giving him a very large dose of fentanyl. Fentanyl made him “high”, content with the world even though he was aware of being stripped and left naked and didn’t like—the fentanyl left him unable to voice his objections. Fentanyl also left him incapable of processing information like he would normally. Fentanyl is known to mess with people’s normal decision making process. He never knew he had been drugged until he read his medical records. He couldn’t figure out what had happened to him and why he allowed it to happen. They knew what they were doing. He had told them that painkillers and versed would render him defenseless and incapable. At the hospital, they gave him more fentanyl and also versed. They didn’t get consent for the procedure until after this second dose of fentanyl coming about 30 minutes after the massive first dose coupled with versed. They lied to say his was alert times 3. Apparently, these “medical professionals” are not above lying or they are so stupid they cannot recognize a man who is extremely “high.” We both feel they just flat out lied. They knew he wasn’t agreeable to their gold standard of treatment and they had been called in and they were going to do the procedure with or without his consent which in his case was truly without his consent. This is how hospitals work and not the rosy picture told by Bob Loves Abishola.
For hospitals, drugged (sedated) patients are easier to deal with and they are able to keep them isolated from their families. Families could interfere with what the medical provider wants to do. Many of the gold standard treatments are big money-makers for the hospitals so they are encouraged and probably rewarded to perform those procedures. Also, we didn’t know it but the first hospital had called in a STEMI alert which meant the second hospital called in staff to perform a PCI. We weren’t told his treatment was already set in concrete but they knew so when we both said we wanted to talk to the second hospital about what his treatment options were so we could decide, all of the medical personnel banded together to make sure that didn’t happen. There is no other explanation. The first hospital did not want to have the blame placed on them for falsely activating the cath lab and the 2nd hospital did not want to pay staff if the cath lab was not used to they made sure they had a victim for the cath lab.
My husband’s cardiac nurse, Feather Wench, is a 30 something bleach blonde who by her social media profile loves drinking and thinks she is Hollywood goddess. She is also single. She also is a Bernie Sanders supporters and dislikes President Trump. The other nurse who helped in her sexual abuse of my husband, Winifred Sanction—the social worker nurse, has a sketchy past. How ironic and low that as Winifred was asking him if his spouse sexually abused him that she was helping to sexually abuse him? What lowlifes!!!! In previous posts who have read about the laughing nurse who is actually Winifred. My husband remembers hearing Feather and Winifred laughing in his room while his eyes were closed due to the drugs and while he was exposed. It is no wonder that his mind was full of how could he get out of there asap. His mind was full of bits and pieces of the memories of the abuse and wondering how it came that he had had some type of procedure done and he was scared.
Most hospitals encourage that someone stay with the patient. For my husband, however, Feather kept him isolated so she could sexually abuse him. She falsified the medical records to cover her crime by saying he had visitors when he did not. She knew what she was doing. Do male nurses keep female patients isolated from their families? In Bob’s situation, it was clear from the way he was acting that he had been there for some time as he did not wake up groggy and his family was not in the room. That portrayal was just not accurate. But then, hopefully, not every male is not molested and assaulted.
But one thing that is clear that medicine in the United States encourages the use of such drugs as versed (a benzo) that main purpose is to promote amnesia. In other words, American medical providers don’t want you to remember what happens to you while you are having procedures. Why is that? Mainly because you are stripped completely for surgeries that do not require total nudity. However, that is the way they like it as it makes their job easier. Not only does versed make you have amnesia but it also makes you compliant and uninhibited so you do not care and if you did care, you can do nothing about it. Versed is one of the drugs of choice for date rape and you can see why it is used so frequently on unknowing patients. My husband knew they had stripped and left him exposed for their entertainment. He was horrified but was unable to object or do anything about it. He had too much fentanyl in him and fentanyl acts as a paralytic so physically he couldn’t resist. Obviously they knew he had been given too fentanyl and he was too high so they didn’t give him the standard 2 mgs of versed and but did give him 1mcg. He was probably on the brink of deep sedation rather than moderate. At first, he didn’t understand why he didn’t do anything about their sexual abuse of him as it was happening until he read in his medical records that he had been drugged by them. The deep sense of betrayal runs deep as he had to come to terms with the fact that people who should have protected him when he was so defenseless in fact totally abused and assaulted him.
So falling in love with his cardiac nurse was out of the question. For sure, she has some mental issues in which she likes to dominant and control her male patients by committing sexual assault when she knows they are too drugged to defend themselves. She wasn’t able to properly perform her nursing duties as she was too busy assaulting him. Gratitude to her or that hospital is out of the question! He is lucky that did not kill him with their viciousness. Too many patients never fully realize what has been done to them because the drugs do their job. Even if this only happened to him it is too much. Feather Wench and WInifred Sanction are free to strike out again and I am sure there are many others like them and you will never know if you will be the one that gets someone like them. The romantic nurse like in the tv show doesn’t exist nor should we encourage any romantic (sexual) feelings with medical providers who provides intimate care as that will lead down a road no one wants to travel.